Culture and domestic violence
Media release
21 September 2021
Cultural norms that fuel prevalence of domestic violence need to be addressed - says anti-GBV NGO
Cape Town, 21 September 2021 — South Africa urgently needs to deal with the patriarchal cultural norms that fuel and normalise the scourge of domestic violence. This is according to Nandipha Ganya, Programmes Manager at MOSAIC Training, Service & Healing Centre, a non-governmental organisation (NGO) dedicated to fighting GBV. "We need to challenge the harmful beliefs that make it okay for men and boys to continue to use violence against women and girls in the name of culture."
The NGO says it's crucial to confront the following toxic cultural beliefs and practices embedded in our society to reduce the disturbingly high incidents of domestic violence:
Dealing with domestic violence as a family matter: Hiding domestic violence as a matter to be dealt with privately between intimate partners or resolved within the family before it goes 'outside' is wrong. "Domestic violence is a public issue and a crime that the police and justice system should handle. Yet sometimes when victims, especially women, file domestic violence cases, police and magistrates, even family members, dismiss complaints because they also believe that culturally these are private family matters and not crimes. Treating domestic violence in this manner has the effect of silencing the victim," says Ganya.
Normalising staying in violent intimate partner relationships: We need to remove the beliefs that make it difficult for women to leave abusive relationships. Divorce, leaving, or moving back home should not be seen as failures or regarded with shame. "Teachings such as umshado uyabekezelwa (one must persevere in marriage), mosadi o tshwara thipa ka bohaleng (a woman holds the sharp end of the knife) or ‘stand by your man,’unfairly require women to continue to persevere and be resilient in marriages, even when their lived reality in these marriages is abuse and potentially fatal violence.
Equating domestic violence with love: Harmful gender stereotypes steeped in social and cultural norms condone a man who beats his wife or intimate partner as something he does because he loves her. "In some instances, young girls and boys are still taught that boyfriends and husbands beat their girlfriends and wives when they love them which is very problematic," says Ganya.
Legitimising violence as a means to assert male authority in the family: Men still use violence in the home to demonstrate that they are the heads of the house and, therefore, in control. "Through this practice, men coerce respect and submissiveness from their homes. In addition, many still believe that men are entitled to dole out discipline through corporal punishment and other forms of violence. As a result, children who grow up in such environments also then view corporal punishment as a way to resolve conflict, " says Ganya.
Socialising boys into toxic ideas of masculinity: Our patriarchal society still teaches boys a version of masculinity that includes shows of physical strength, dominance and sexual conquest. There's still an emphasis on 'proper' masculinity, which is believed to include a man's ability to dominate and control a woman or female partner. Ganya says this toxic version of masculinity manifests in boys and men using violence to assert control over women through rape, harassment, physical, emotional and financial abuse. "It also manifests as violence against other men because toxic masculinity is ultimately harmful to everyone including men themselves."
MOSAIC says part of addressing these harmful cultural norms includes engaging with men and boys. The NGO does this through gender sensitisation workshops that focus on unpacking the harmful gender norms and stereotypes that drive and sustain high levels of gender inequality, domestic violence and GBV. "Our programme creates a platform where men and boys learn, unlearn and relearn how to be positive human beings who co-exist with others in a non-violent way. The workshops introduce the participants to gender and toxic masculinity concepts in an easy-to-understand way and alternative, positive gender norms and masculinities that promote gender equality," says Ganya.
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About MOSAIC
MOSAIC is a community-based non-governmental organisation (NGO) that works to prevent and reduce abuse and domestic violence. This is achieved by providing holistic, integrated services when incidents occur, and supporting clients through the process of healing and rebuilding their lives after a traumatic event.
MOSAIC creates an enabling environment through our holistic and integrated five-pillar service model
- Access to justice – psychosocial and legal support provided by court support workers, and psychosocial support from MOSAIC's Sexual Violence Counsellors at Thuthuzela Care Centres
- Support and Healing – Counselling Services, Support Groups and Sexual and Reproductive Health Rights;
- Engaging Men and Boys- Training and Workshops, Support Groups and Counselling for Men
- Empower- Education and Skills Training, Rights Training, Youth GBV Life Skills and Community Dialogues
- Advocacy and Policy- Advancing rights of women and girls by providing evidence from our services to change the system.
The organisation was established in 1993 in response to high levels of violence against women in South Africa, particularly in the form of domestic violence, and in recognition of the silence that many women suffer in unnecessarily, due to either a lack of knowledge of their rights, a lack of confidence to access justice for themselves, or both. MOSAIC's registered head office is in Cape Town, South Africa.
For further information about MOSAIC, please visit www.mosaic.org.za